论坛交流模式：看people skills（Bolton)之后的随想

Almost everyone in a forum(OZ suggesting a girl about emotional choice) is just following his own moral principle and enjoys what he says rather than the help given.

Even when they are suggesting (which is often a barrier of communication, making other submissive and following/obeying, and undermine own's will to solve own problem, submissive and compliant)


Giving materials even guides/experience are good, but how about given opinions? You can't pursade another people to follow your opinion.


也就是说，要么你列举事实，让别人主动去思考，探索，得出结论，解决自己的问题，要么混合自己的道德观点，感染别人，让别人在被你的道德挟裹，认同你的立场之后，参照你给出的意见去做